Day 156: Deep Dark Secrets
This post is intended for my fellow gamers and I am hoping that non-gamers lack interest and do not explore. Today I will reveal some deep dark secrets that might have implications (so don’t rat me out or I will stop blogging).
|I will stop blogging if you rat me out.|
When bad stuff goes down most people need to vent and if a therapist is not available they call a friend or relative. I am so lucky to be part of a large family and have a great network of friends that support one another. The downside is that I regularly get calls that last for a minimum of an hour comforting or letting some just talk through their current crisis. This is not me whining because I will be the first to admit that I have the gift of gab and talk just as much as the next person. But some days I just don’t have it in me to be a good friend and console others.
Question from a Reader
Recently I received an email from a wife asking what my thoughts are on her hubs ignoring her to play games? My first impulse was to say that is a jerk move and its never okay to ignore you partner. I even started to construct a blog post about patriarchy and power relationships between different genders. But then I realized that’s actually a lie. There are several times when it is completely acceptable to both be at home, hanging out, and not fully engaged with one another because one of you is playing a game (um I did that for 10 minutes this morning before I got out of bed while playing PvZ).
It’s Okay to Play Solo and Block Out Drama
For example. When lets say just for sake of argument that my twin calls and needs to tell me about the horrible encounter she had with her kids school that day. As soon as she takes a deep inhalation I know this is going to be a long call. If she seems particularly upset I will put my controller down and give the hubs a knowing look. He is cool about letting me sit beside him while he plays a solo game and I listen and support my sis.
The way I use games that is NOT good while interacting with others
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Tip for the day: try to be together even when you play single person games. I fold laundry, grade papers, and read my angsty paranormal romance while the hubs plays solo games beside me that don’t interest me. He sleeps, folds laundry, paints models, give instructions, and surfs the internet while I play solo beside him. We do not always have to be playing a game together to feel connected. Plus watching someone kill big ugly demons can really be soothing while you are on a long venting phone call.