tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5366674932321434029.post5773692114540520359..comments2023-10-22T07:52:22.456-07:00Comments on Married and Playing: 100 Days of Video Games and More: A Treacherous River in Kern: Love and a Broken Marriage Professor CCBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06589242947190280311noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5366674932321434029.post-76965130001505723652015-02-20T15:45:59.077-08:002015-02-20T15:45:59.077-08:00You've listed here things that hubs has change...You've listed here things that hubs has changed: where is your list? One of the first comments Rick said to me when I was going through my divorce was that I was responsible for the demise of my relationship too. By acquiescing to what he wanted, by not having a voice, by not sharing my emotions, I let it continue to follow that tried and true thought process "he cheated, it's all his fault, I did nothing wrong". But I had cheated us and our relationship by not speaking. Dr. Phil writes that before you start hurling stones, you need to look at yourself and your slate should be pretty clean before you start in. In your next blog you write about being a kick ass wife snd professional and him living in your shadow. Take time to consider what that feels like and that you had the freedom to get your Masters and doctorate, be more involved in yoga and CFA, and feel confident that the kids were well taken care of. I certainly didn't like looking in the mirror but learned so much from doing so. Did it save my marriage, not at all because in the reflection I could finally see that it was years before that it had started going downhill. Love you both. Keep working on it, keep knowing that it's wotth it.Life's lessons are difficult. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17723139907539017475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5366674932321434029.post-53684198194757738192015-02-17T17:37:08.560-08:002015-02-17T17:37:08.560-08:00I am so happy by this post/ comment that you share...I am so happy by this post/ comment that you shared. This is almost our story except bad stuff happened because we never had that big ole' fight. I agree the family that plays together indeed! <br />Professor CCBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06589242947190280311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5366674932321434029.post-51553851227058714372015-02-17T15:56:06.944-08:002015-02-17T15:56:06.944-08:00That last pebble is can be quite large. I will onl...That last pebble is can be quite large. I will only buy a game if it has some kind of Co op. I almost never play any game without my wife, and when I do it is usually with my kids.<br /><br />There was a period of several months last year where we both ended up busy with life. Kids in sports, busy at work, Melissa's ebay store, and many other factors contributed. I played a little bit by myself while she would be doing something for ebay, or LFR. She would find something to do (reading gymboree/etc forums or just ebay stuff) when I was busy with extra work stuff or with the kids at sports. We started to do a little more solo because our schedules were not in sync anymore.<br /><br />Melissa used to bug me when I played a game solo when she was done with something, but she started to do it less, and just let me play. I also would bug here about what she was doing so we could start up a game together, but began to just wait for here bug me. Eventually neither of us really waited on the other much, which led us to do many things apart, when before we were inseparable. Being the lower EQ person in the relationship it did not register with me quite as fast.<br /><br />Melissa finally let me have it. I was ignoring her. I was was avoiding spending time with her. I was no longer as interested in her as I once was. I was on a clear path to real problems. According to her.<br /><br />I let her have it back. She never bothers the tell me when she is done when I am waiting on her. Why should I have to always have to be the one to get something started? Why am I not allowed to play a solo game while she is busy when she sits and reads forums while I am busy?<br /><br />We both had slowly let eachother be alone while getting annoyed that it was happening. Sometimes all you need is a good fight with your spouse to realize that you are both being idiots. Both of us MUCH prefer to game together, and after that night we are much better about bugging eachother. While it might be annoying to others, I always want my wife to tell me to quit my solo game to start something with her, and I will also ask here more often when she will be ready to go.<br /><br />Some say the family that prays together stays together, but I think it is equally important that the family that plays together stays together.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13546533201987134530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5366674932321434029.post-81214596057455550432015-02-15T18:15:25.560-08:002015-02-15T18:15:25.560-08:00The loss of wearing chonklas (aka sandles) was way...The loss of wearing chonklas (aka sandles) was way harder than not wearing super hero shirts. Professor CCBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06589242947190280311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5366674932321434029.post-7997160471611991952015-02-15T16:41:22.067-08:002015-02-15T16:41:22.067-08:00The shirt thing shocked me too
The shirt thing shocked me too<br />mjolinrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07660553307685087757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5366674932321434029.post-48408597656548252212015-02-15T11:20:26.104-08:002015-02-15T11:20:26.104-08:00Not the super hero shirts! :(Not the super hero shirts! :(Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05097745996639173541noreply@blogger.com